The casual command, "Hey, bring me some water!" directed at a restaurant employee by an elderly man, prompted his granddaughter to sternly reprimand him. "I've told you so many times not to speak like that. Why do you keep doing it?" The grandfather, embarrassed, attempted to justify his behavior by saying, "It's because I see everyone as my own children."

Is it acceptable for older individuals to use informal language simply because of their age? While it's true that in many cultures, age confers a certain level of respect, it's not universally true that all elderly people disrespect others. In fact, many older individuals place great emphasis on treating others with respect. However, some may have ingrained habits of disrespect from their younger years.

The problem lies in the fact that many people fail to recognize or ignore the changing nature of society. The hierarchical social structures of the past have given way to a more egalitarian society. In contemporary social interactions, especially with strangers, it is more appropriate to use formal language as a sign of respect. As society moves towards greater equality, there is a growing need for "generational sensitivity" in addition to "gender sensitivity."

The language we use has a profound impact on our brains. Frequent use of negative language can lead to negative thought patterns and contribute to unhappiness. Conversely, positive language can have a positive impact on our mental well-being. Using respectful language not only elevates others but also uplifts oneself. It is the simplest way to show respect for others.