• 2026.11.11 (Wed)
  • All articles
  • LOGIN
  • JOIN
Global Economic Times
[등록] 2026-09-01 15:48:31
  • Synthesis
  • World
  • Business
  • Industry
  • ICT
  • Distribution Economy
  • Well+Being
    • Pet Life
    • Halal Horizon
  • Travel
  • Eco-News
  • Education
  • Korean Wave News
  • Opinion
  • Arts&Culture
  • Sports
  • People & Life
    • International Student Report
    • With Ambassador
  • Column
    • Cho Kijo Column
    • Cherry Garden Story
    • Ko Yong-chul Column
    • Kim Bong-seon's Photo Column
    • Kim Seul-Ong Column
    • Lee Yeon-sil Column
  • Photo News
  • New Book Guide
MENU
 
Home > Column > Ko Yong-chul Column

How to Live Without Getting Hurt: Understanding, Forgiveness, and Self-Protection

KO YONG-CHUL Reporter / Updated : 2025-02-18 16:00:25
  • -
  • +
  • Print

In life, we inevitably encounter situations and people that cause us pain. The key to navigating these challenges lies in protecting our own hearts while maintaining a healthy perspective on others. This involves understanding, forgiveness, and ultimately, prioritizing our own well-being.

Understanding: The First Step to Healing

One of the most effective ways to minimize hurt is to detach others' words and actions from our own sense of self-worth. People speak and act based on their own experiences, emotions, and perspectives, which often have little to do with us personally. Recognizing this can prevent us from internalizing negativity and taking things too personally.

Lowering expectations of others can also be beneficial. Expecting others to understand us can lead to disappointment and hurt when they inevitably fall short. Instead, accepting that everyone is different and has their own unique way of seeing the world can foster greater peace of mind.

While understanding is important, it doesn't mean tolerating harmful behavior. Setting boundaries and distancing ourselves from those who repeatedly cause us pain is crucial for self-preservation. Not all relationships are worth maintaining, and prioritizing our own emotional health is paramount.

Trying to understand the other person's perspective can also be helpful. Everyone carries their own burdens and scars, which can influence their behavior. By considering the potential reasons behind their actions, we can develop greater empathy and compassion, even if we don't condone their behavior.

However, understanding doesn't equate to acceptance. It's simply a way to manage our own emotions and make sense of the situation. It's crucial to maintain our own values and standards while striving to understand others.

Forgiveness: A Gift to Ourselves

Forgiveness is often misunderstood as an act of condoning someone's actions or letting them off the hook. In reality, forgiveness is primarily for our own benefit. Holding onto anger and resentment only prolongs our own suffering. By choosing to forgive, we release ourselves from the burden of negativity and create space for healing.

This doesn't mean forgetting or condoning what happened. It simply means choosing to move forward without being consumed by bitterness. Forgiveness is a process that takes time and may not always be possible, especially in cases of deep trauma. It's important to honor our own emotions and allow ourselves to grieve and heal at our own pace.

If forgiveness feels impossible, starting with a simple decision to no longer let the situation control our lives can be a powerful first step. This can involve setting boundaries, seeking support, or focusing on self-care.

Self-Protection: The Ultimate Priority

Ultimately, the most important thing is to protect ourselves from further harm. This may involve distancing ourselves from toxic people, setting boundaries, or seeking professional help. It's crucial to remember that we are worthy of love, respect, and happiness, and we deserve to be treated with kindness.

The journey of healing and self-discovery is unique to each individual. There is no right or wrong way to navigate these challenges. The most important thing is to be patient with ourselves, honor our emotions, and prioritize our own well-being.

Understanding, forgiveness, and self-protection are all essential components of living a fulfilling and meaningful life. By embracing these principles, we can cultivate greater resilience, compassion, and inner peace.

[Copyright (c) Global Economic Times. All Rights Reserved.]

  • #globaleconomictimes
  • #글로벌이코노믹타임즈
  • #한국
  • #중기청
  • #재외동포청
  • #외교부
  • #micorea
  • #mykorea
  • #newsk
  • #nammidonganews
  • #singaporenewsk
KO YONG-CHUL Reporter
KO YONG-CHUL Reporter
Reporter Page

Popular articles

  • US Pushes to Deploy Special Task Force to the Korean Peninsula—Is It Also Targeting China?

  • HMM Relocates Headquarters to Busan: A New Era for South Korea's Flagship Carrier

  • Samsung Electronics Unveils 'AI Memory' Technologies and Yongin Cluster Roadmap at SEDEX 2026

I like it
Share
  • Facebook
  • X
  • Kakaotalk
  • LINE
  • BAND
  • NAVER
  • https://www.globaleconomictimes.kr/article/1065596367688665 Copy URL copied.
Comments >

Comments 0

Weekly Hot Issue

  • Inha University Caught in Campus Culture Clash Over Proposed Rhee Syng-man Statue Revival
  • Honoring a Legacy: Poet Oh Dong-chun Recognized for Lifelong Dedication to Hangul and Sijo Poetry
  • Bongeunsa Temple to Host 2026 Patriotic Buddhism Cultural Festa
  • South Korea Confronts a Growing Health Crisis as Adult Obesity Rates Surge
  • Pain of Chosei Coal Mine Meets Japanese Readers: Moon Young-sook Publishes Japanese Edition of 'Black Sea'
  • Beyond the Trillion-Dollar Mark: China’s Trade Surplus and the Debate Over Global Economic Dominance

Most Viewed

1
US Army Conducts Rare Temporary Burial Drills to Prepare for Worst-Case Large-Scale War Scenarios
2
World Citizens are Flying Directly to Busan... The Era of 4 Million Foreigners is Just Around the Corner
3
Eating 100g of Baechu Kimchi Daily Linked to Lower High-Cholesterol Risks
4
Meeting Christmas Early!… Busan Dessert Sales Event "Daldal The Market" Held
5
November Shopping Festival Sparks Retail War in South Korea: Where to Find the Best Deals
체리가든 스토리
nutri huevos
로타리
동포저널

Hot Issue

Jensen Huang Faces Shareholder Class Action and Leadership Scrutiny Amid Espionage Allegations Involving Former Associate

Disgraced South Korean Scientist Hwang Woo-suk Becomes UAE Citizen

Is South Korea Heading Toward France's Path? Aging Population and Fiscal Pressures Looming Ahead

Fashion Runway Show 2026

Let’s recycle the old blankets in Jeju Island’s closet instead of incinerating them.

Global Economic Times
korocamia@naver.com
CEO : LEE YEON-SIL
Publisher : KO YONG-CHUL
Registration number : Seoul, A55681
Registration Date : 2024-10-24
Youth Protection Manager: KO YONG-CHUL
Singapore Headquarters
5A Woodlands Road #11-34 The Tennery. S'677728
Korean Branch
Phone : +82(0)10 4724 5264
#304, 6 Nonhyeon-ro 111-gil, Gangnam-gu, Seoul
Copyright © Global Economic Times All Rights Reserved
  • News K
  • 반달곰 프로젝트
  • 광고문의
Search
Category
  • All articles
  • Synthesis
  • World
  • Business
  • Industry
  • ICT
  • Distribution Economy
  • Well+Being 
    • 전체
    • Pet Life
    • Halal Horizon
  • Travel
  • Eco-News
  • Education
  • Korean Wave News
  • Opinion
  • Arts&Culture
  • Sports
  • People & Life 
    • 전체
    • International Student Report
    • With Ambassador
  • Column 
    • 전체
    • Cho Kijo Column
    • Cherry Garden Story
    • Ko Yong-chul Column
    • Kim Bong-seon's Photo Column
    • Kim Seul-Ong Column
    • Lee Yeon-sil Column
  • Photo News
  • New Book Guide
  • Overseas Koreans
  • Multicultural News